Thursday, December 14, 2017

Lonely This Christmas?

Christmas season is a happy occasion for many. The reasons are obvious and all around us: glittering decors, yuletide songs, year-end bonus, parties left and right, gifts galore, family vacation. But these same reasons that could make one person happy could be the opposite reasons that could make another lonely.

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        Because for someone whose property has been foreclosed, he will have no house to decorate. The part-timer, freelancer, and unemployed will not be qualified for the 13th month pay. Someone will not be part of the party tonight because his name was excluded in the guest list. A guy will be disappointed for not receiving the gift he expected. And at least one family will be incomplete because a member is away or has departed permanently.

        Some of us might think we have been forgotten, deserted, neglected, or excluded. But the circumstances of the birth of Jesus reminds us that Jesus Christ came for all, He embraced all. How significant that it was to the shepherds that the angels proclaimed the birth of the Savior. Shepherds on those days were perceived by many as having low or little value. Most of the time they are away from the city and thus, from the people because they are on the field tending sheep. The birth of the Messiah is reason for great joy to the shepherds and to the rest of us. Jesus came for the outcasts, unwanted, separated, neglected, and excluded. He came to bring them all to God the Father to be part of His family. Being part of God's family means you are loved and cherished, provided and protected, thought of and remembered. This truth gives us reason to rejoice and celebrate Christmas.



"And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord" (Luke 2:8-11).

Monday, December 11, 2017

Books, a Toy, and a Savior

I watched as the customer assistant folded the flaps of the carton box and sealed the edges with a tape. Then she wrapped the package in plastic and inserted on a side pocket the waybill identifying the consignee and destination of the goods. My books were on their way to a remote elementary school up north.


                I had mixed feelings when I realized that I was parting with my books. It gave me satisfaction that I was able to share my books to school children and teachers who are very much in need of materials for their library, yet the separation anxiety was real. These books have been with me for years and have helped me in many ways—grammar books, a book of fables and parables, juvenile novels, a well-read Bible, and reference books.

                As my palm patted the surface of the box, a scene came to my mind. I remembered the college-bound Andy in the movie Toy Story 3 when he hesitated to give away his all-time favorite toy Woody the Cowboy to a little girl. He spent many happy days playing with Woody that’s why parting with the miniature wooden cowboy was difficult. But in the end, Andy yielded and handed his old beloved toy to its new eager owner.

Image of Woody from www.clipartpanda.com

                There is Someone who gave away something far more valuable than books or toys. God the Father gave His only beloved Son, Jesus, so all of us may not perish but live. This is the essence of Christmas. “For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son. Whoever puts his trust in God’s Son will not be lost but will have life that lasts forever” (John 3:16). God did not hesitate to send His only beloved Son to this troubled world to rescue us. He who has been with Him from eternity reigning in glory, was born like one of us in humble circumstances to redeem us.



The angels told the shepherds the night baby Jesus was born, “Do not be afraid. I am bringing you good news that will be a great joy to all the people. Today your Savior was born in the town of David. He is Christ, the Lord” (Luke 2:10-11). How did Jesus become our Savior? The baby Jesus would later grow up and by the age of 33, die on the cross to pay for our sins and set us free from its power.

 This Christmas season, I hope you receive the greatest gift one can ever have, far greater than books or toys. He is Jesus Christ, the Lord, our Savior!



Monday, January 23, 2017

Heart Test




I accompanied my father to the examination room for his 2D echo test three days ago. It was my first time to see a sonogram of the heart. I could hardly remember all the parts of our central organ, but as I saw the images of my father’s heart and heard its beat as it pumps rhythmically, I was struck with awe.

A provoking line from Francis Chan’s book Crazy Love came to my mind. The majority of us take for granted our kidneys, liver, lungs, and other internal organs that we’re dependent upon to continue living. We know our kidneys are inside our bodies, our heart is in our chest. But it’s not until we experience a sharp pain in the back or difficulty in breathing that we become concerned. Chan was right. On the average day, we forget that our life is truly a vapor. We could die any moment.

In the same vein, we don’t consider God very much most of the time. We’re either struggling to survive, or just the opposite, succeeding steadily that we leave God in the sidelines. Some might object. I pray to Him first thing in the morning. I attend church on Sundays. When I have time, I volunteer. I give a portion of my income to support the work of the church. But is that enough? Or should we rather ask:  Is that the only way we are to view our devotion to God?

Jesus commanded His followers, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” (Mark 12:30). The other day, I stumbled upon an article by Jason DeRouchie titled "Love God with Your Everything" where he expounded on the said verse. I think he captured what it means to love God with all our hearts and soul when he said, “We are to love God with our passions, hungers, perceptions, and thoughts. But we are also to love him with how we talk, and what we do with our hands, and how we utilize our talents, and how we react to challenges — our entire being is to display that we love God.”

From time to time it’s good to submit our hearts for a spiritual test. Let’s allow God to search our hearts and show us what really makes our hearts beat, what makes them sick, why they wander far from Him.  Let us allow God, the One who made our hearts and keeps them beating, to impress upon us what pleases Him. From time to time, let’s check if our hearts are still in sync with Him.
       


        

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Sweet Love

Lunch for that day was the usual steamed rice, fried milkfish, and a vegetable mix of squash, stringbeans, malunggay (moringa) leaves boiled in water with chopped onion, tomato and flavored with fish sauce. It was a satisfying meal that made my tummy happy. But just when I finished my meal, I felt a craving for some sweets. Without hesitation, I expressed my desire aloud, "LORD, I want a dessert." No, it was not a demand, but a request made known in a way a little child would confidently ask something from her father or mother.

Probably no more than five minutes had passed when a couple knocked on our door. My husband and I were expecting them to visit that day to deliver their wedding invitation, but it never crossed our minds that they would bring something else--a box tied with green ribbon. And inside the box was, well, a round mango cheesecake!



I was tickled pink not only with how quickly God answered my request for dessert, but with how this incident is also an answer to another prayer that morning. You see, I was reading a verse that goes like this: "There is no fear in love [dread does not exist]. But perfect (complete, full-grown) love drives out fear, because fear involves [the expectation of divine punishment so the one who is afraid [of God's judgment] is not perfected in love [has not grown into a sufficient understanding of God's love]."*

The verse is talking about the love of God and how God's love for us removes all our fears. Though I have moments of victory over negative thoughts, I admit sometimes I still feel afraid and I'm distracted by thoughts about the past and future. How can this perfect love of God drive out all my fears? I was drawn to the last few words of the verse: The one who is afraid has not yet grown into a sufficient understanding of God's love.

I realized I may never fully grasp the dimension of God's love for me, and for that matter, for any man. But as God enables, I can at least gain a sufficient understanding of His love, enough to cause a positive change in me. Knowing God is a lifelong process, and everyday is an opportunity to know Him and experience His love. So I began that day with a prayer. "LORD, please open my eyes and let me see how you love me."

When the dessert arrived swiftly than I expected, I thought that God was showing me that He is aware not only of my needs, but even of my wants, and that He is willing to provide for them. On the other hand, I accept that He also demonstrates His love when he withholds a request that will not be good for me. But this time, this precious time, I'm free to savor this demonstration of the sweet love of God my Father in heaven.

“You parents—if your children ask for a loaf of bread, do you give them a stone instead? Or if they ask for a fish, do you give them a snake? Of course not! So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him." Matthew 7:9-11

*1 John 4:18, Amplified Bible

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Friday, July 1, 2016

Hungry Like Kopiko and Copycat

Our cats Kopiko and Copycat

Our cats, Kopiko and Copycat, are always waiting outside our kitchen door for my husband to feed them. In the morning, once we open the door, they scramble and meow, expressing their need for food. And as my husband prepares their daily fare of sardines, they run quickly and cry even louder. They're hungry and they're excited to be fed.

Psalm 130:5 says, "I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and with hope I wait for his word". The psalmist is also hungry for food for his soul and he knows what can satisfy him and how he could get it. He knows that only God can feed his soul with His satisfying words. And so he waits on God till He receives a message of hope.

Jesus said that we are to live not on bread alone, but on every word that comes out of the mouth of God (Matthew 4:4). Fortunately for us today, God's word has been neatly put together in a book form--the Bible. From Genesis to Revelation, the importance of hearing, or in our case, reading the Word of God is always emphasized. The Bible is not just a guide for life, but it is food for our soul. As a human father nourishes his children with food that will make them healthy and strong, our Heavenly Father also offers us spiritual feast for our growth and contentment. His Word encourages, enlightens, invigorates, infuses us with hope, calms our fears, and fills our heart with peace. But like our cats, we are to come regularly, humbly, and with expectation to our Father's table so He can feed us with fresh manna from heaven.

If you would like to start each day with a reading of a Bible verse, visit  BibleGateway. This site also offers various devotionals, Bible study guides, and various translations of the Bible. 

OMF Literature also has a physical and online bookstore where you can purchase Bibles that will suit your need. 

The Philippine Bible Society also publishes and distributes Bibles in different dialects spoken in the country. 










Thursday, May 19, 2016

Rediscovering the Wonder of a Children's Storybook

I was overseas last week to conduct a training for those aspiring to write for children and young people. My co-trainer Emily Lim from Singapore is an award-winning children’s book author whose works have been translated into different languages. Naturally, she was tasked to share about writing children’s storybooks. My assignment was to teach the participants how to write devotional and personal experience articles.

            Although I came to the writers’ workshop as a trainer, I was expecting to learn more about writing children’s story from Emily. Many years ago, my first attempts in writing were stories for children. I attended workshops for writing for children and wrote stories soon after. Eagerly, I submitted them to a publisher but not one of the stories was turned into a book. I picked up the pieces of my broken ego, and mustered strength to write again for children. Satisfied by the fruit of my labor, I took another bold step: I entered a national contest. Sadly, the story didn’t impress the judges. I was so discouraged I stopped writing stories for children. Instead, I turned to writing magazine articles, curriculum, and radio scripts for children. Occasionally, I would write short stories for students as part of my textbooks, but I have given up hope of writing a storybook for younger kids.

            So at the workshop, I took notes of what my co-trainer shared about writing storybooks for children—the parameters of writing for different age groups, the classic story structure, “sins” to avoid in writing for children. There were also many books displayed at the training, and so I had the chance to feel once again the hard covers of a children’s book, feast on the splash of colors on its pages, and hear the rhythm of the words that were meticulously put together by the author. Each participant also shared the summary of the book they’ve read, and then...one by one they came. The sense of wonder came. Pleasure made sure his presence was felt. That “aha!” moment finally arrived. The joy of reading and hearing a retelling of a children’s story was coming back to me. There I was, an adult rediscovering the wonder of a children’s storybook.



            There were times I choked when I heard about how a poor teddy bear longed to be loved, or how a rocking horse, when given a chance to be real, chose to remain a toy for a disabled friend. I surely identified with the fearful little seed and the worrisome fox who both had to go through unfamiliar situations. How can that story of trusting God through fear and change told in a child’s language also speak to an adult like me? That’s the power of a children’s story.


            I didn’t come out of the training with the resolve to pick up the pen, so to speak, and begin writing stories for children again. No, I came back with a renewed appreciation for children’s storybook writers like Emily and the others I know from the Philippines. I will, most probably, open another children’s storybook the next time I visit a bookstore, or maybe download an e-book. And then, as I read again, I hope the wonder returns. 


If you wish to read children's books published in the Philippines, I recommend books published by the Hiyas imprint of Omf Literature

Sunday, March 27, 2016

Your Purpose for This Generation

A friend passed away in her hospital bed last week. She was only 45. Too young to die in midlife, I lamented. She left three children who are all still going to school. She has dreams for her family and for herself, but now she wouldn't be able to fulfill them in this temporal setting. We who love her are somehow comforted when we try to see things through teary eyes of faith, believing in the wisdom of God's sovereign purpose.

Then I remembered a shepherd boy-turned-king named David who lived a full life: "For David, after he had served the purpose of God in his own generation, fell asleep, and was laid among his fathers and underwent decay" (Acts 13:36). King David conquered the city of Jerusalem and made it a flourishing capital; united the north and south kingdom into one Israel; drove away their many enemies; and paved the way for a succession of leadership over Israel and the building of the grand temple by his son Solomon. Most of us would be timid to compare our resume with the beloved king's curriculum vitae. I wouldn't; there's no comparison at all.

Yet reading a line from Samuel Bakutana's devotional article from Light for the Writer's Soul* sparked hope in me today. "Every Christian writer is a gift to his or her generation." Furthermore, he said, "We often underrate the greatness of God's writing gift in us...we often utilize that gift with slow speed, little passion and almost no urgency."


Though I have dedicated God's writing gift to me for His use, I feel guilty at times of not making the most of every opportunity to write more books, help an author reach more readers by translating his material, or work with a writer in polishing his or her manuscript. I allow myself to be distracted by scrolling down further and clicking more links on my Facebook. Or I take a break from the computer screen to focus on the TV screen and linger much longer. I blame lethargy for postponing a translation project that's long overdue. And I admit, sometimes multi-tasking didn't help accomplish more what I thought I could.

If I want to fufill my God-given purpose for this generation, I must use through God's grace what was entrusted to me--time, talent, treasure, things--while I'm still here on earth. In the end, we don't compare our accomplishments against our siblings or colleagues. We will be judged according to how faithful we have been in using our gifts to fulfill our purpose for this generation.


*Light for the Writer's Soul: 100 Devotions by Global Christian Writers is jointly published by Media Associates International and Armour Publishing. To order, please click on the links.

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Tuesday, August 4, 2015

Slow Down

As cars and jeeps honk and snake their way to downtown, I silently sent a request. "Lord, please make this a quick trip." I recalled my itinerary for the day--pay bills, make deposits, buy groceries. I wanted to finish everything quickly so I can get back home and continue writing. But when I reached downtown, instead of going to the bank, I followed the alley leading to a cafe. I haven't had a full breakfast and my tummy wants to be filled.

I scanned the menu and ordered a sausage penne and lemon cucumber shake. I was hoping I could finish the brunch in a few minutes so I could then go to the bank, but I saw a reminder in front of the cash register: We slow-cook your meal so please bear with us. Oh, maybe that's one reason why the small restaurant has a shelf of books. So while waiting for my meal, I randomly picked one. The title is The Good and Beautiful God: Falling in  Love with The God Jesus Knows. I began to browse.

I surveyed the table of contents and saw that the last chapter has the most interesting title: How to Make a Pickle. It's subtitle gives a hint on what the chapter is about: Soul Training: Slowing Down. The author, James Bryan Smith, reminds us readers to slow down so we can get a clear perspective of things and hear from God. Actually, I've been planning to go on a personal retreat the next day. I've just been dispatched.

So I'm slowing down for a day or two. And yes, I'm enjoying the view.




Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Morning Blessing


I stepped out of the house for my early morning walk and talk with God.  The air is chilly and fresh. No bustling sound coming from the main road a few meters away from our place. No belting from videoke enthusiasts in the neighborhood. It's too early for that. Even the birds are still asleep. I couldn't hear even a faint delightful chirping. Perfect moment.

I uttered a prayer. Bless me, O Lord with the joy of  Your presence. Increase my rejoicing with Your wonderful promises. Make me happy with answers to my prayers. 

I needed God's comforting presence. The past days have given me enough reasons to weep, worry and be worn. Two friends lost their fathers. A contagious virus struck my son at a time when he needed to complete requirements for graduation. For months now, I've been looking and hoping to find a lost item. And we've been praying for an important application to be finally approved. I desperately needed God's presence and promise. And so I prayed.

In my past conversations with God, He would speak as I open the Scriptures. Sometimes the verse is the exact answer to my question. But at times, I would read a passage that has nothing to do with the thought that's troubling me. Then I would just trust that God heard me anyway. I may not get my answer now, maybe it will come later, or not at all. God's silence doesn't mean His absence.

But this morning, God answered my prayer with a promise as I turned to a Bible reading guide and discovered the verse for the day. It's Romans 15:13. May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Joy and peace come from trust in God, but such trust is finally the gift of God, for believers abound in hope only by his grace (ESV Study Bible). Thank You, LORD for enabling me to trust You, and as I trust You, You fill my heart with gladness. What a blessing for this lovely morning.



Sunday, March 8, 2015

The Worth of a Book

I won! Or at least that's how I felt when I received this email from a reader who came across my latest book, How to Keep Your Hubby Happy at Iba pang Tips para kay Misis. On the last page of that book is a list of my website and blogs. My website has a contact page and it was through that site where she sent me this feedback.

         Good day! I was walking in National Bookstore earlier, when I caught sight
                     of this book--How to Keep Your Hubby Happy. When I opened it, it directed
                     me to the page about Leave and Cleave which I believe is an answer to my 
                     confused mind. I immediately bought it hoping I would be enlightened about
                     my marriage and my relationship with the Lord. I honestly need help but with
                     God's grace I know help will come to me soon. I believe God sent me the
                      answer to my my prayers through this book. Thank you for writing this book
                     and I hope a lot of women out there could read this. 



I was touched and teary-eyed because a reader went out of her way to let me know how the book has affected her. To create a manuscript, writers often work in seclusion. We're wordsmiths who carefully select words to craft them into a message that will inform, instruct, and inspire. So when our readers interact with us, especially with a positive feedback, we have reason to rejoice. This particular comment was also an affirmation of a calling to write. God enabled me to write and used what has been written to impress a message of hope at a time when it was needed the most. Mission accomplished. I give back all glory to God. 

But I was not the only one who accomplished the mission. My publisher, OMF Literature, is committed to offer books of inspiration, instruction, and insight to make a difference in people's lives. Each department works hard to ensure that each book, including How to Keep Your Hubby Happy, is prepared, printed, and promoted so it could reach its audience and touch lives. I'm thankful to OMF Literature for the opportunity to be part of a big team who loves books and produces books that make a difference. 


The worth of a book is to be measured by what you can carry away from it. 
--James Bryce

How to Keep Your Hubby Happy at Iba pang Tips para kay Misis is available at OMF Literature Bookshops, Passages, National Book Stores, PCBS and other book stores. 

You can also purchase and download the e-book version from AmazonFlipreadsBuqo, and Barnes & Noble

with OMF Lit CEO Aleks Tan and wife Daphne
Photo courtesy of Aleks Tan
with OMF Lit Publishing Director Yna Reyes
Photo courtesy of OMF Lit



with Senior Editor Ian Magallona


with Beng Alba Jones, editor of How to Keep Your Hubby Happy


OMF Lit Family
Photo grabbed from OMF Lit Facebook page

Saturday, February 14, 2015

Unfading, Steadfast Love

I did something different that day. Instead of settling myself on a couch in our kitchen corner to do my Scripture reading, I stepped out of the house and wore an earphone. I listened to an audio recording of Psalm 104 as I scanned the blue sky with white clouds of various shapes drifting by. Our neighbor's coconut trees tower above the other trees and added to the delightful view. The cool morning breeze was refreshing and so are the words I was hearing.

Bless the Lord, O my soul!
    O Lord my God, you are very great!
You are clothed with splendor and majesty,
  covering yourself with light as with a garment,
    stretching out the heavens like a tent. (verse 1 and 2)

I was busy the past days with writing assignments and other errands. Because of this, instead of meditating I hastily finished my daily Bible reading and just quickly uttered prayer requests to help me make it through the day. It was like saying "Hi!" and then "Good-bye" right away to an important person who longs to spend time with you.

I needed the quiet time to calm me, but more than that I needed to just be in the presence of my loving God. Hearing an audio recording of the Bible, I was reminded of God's beauty in creation, how He caused each flower and tree to grow, how He formed each mountain, how He caused plants to grow to serve as food for me. God even marked the day with sun and moon to let me know when to work and when to rest.

O Lord, how manifold are your works!
    In wisdom have you made them all;
    the earth is full of your creatures. (verse 24)

God made many wonderful things and often I overlook them. I fail to see how God surrounds me with love. When I take time to read His Word, or in this case, hear His Word, and look around, I realize how much He loves me and how much He desires to spend time with me. 

After standing for some minutes listening to the audio Bible and looking up, I sat down on the porch and fixed my gaze on the ground. A small, faint red spot caught my attention. I looked closely and realized it's not just a spot, but a familiar shape--it's a little heart. I scratched the surface to see if it is paper or other lightweight material, but no, it wasn't. Could it be a drip from a paint? We didn't paint anything red or pink these past weeks. What could it be? I didn't bother to find an explanation anymore on how that little heart got into the ground. I took it as a reminder from the God who created the sparkling stars and fluffy clouds to remind me that He loves me very much with an unfading, steadfast love. 


Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good,
    for his steadfast love endures foreverPsalm 136:1

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

A Heart and a Jar Filled with Gratitude

On the first day of this year, a friend on Facebook invited us to keep a Gratitude Jar for the rest of the year. The idea is to think daily about one thing you're grateful for, write it on a piece of paper, and toss it in a jar of your choice which will be aptly named as, yes, "Gratitude Jar".

My Gratitude Jar

I took on the challenge and found right away an empty, transparent, green bottle with a long neck. Perfect. I jotted down each day on a small strip of pink paper one thing that's worth thanking God for. For the past month, my heart has been spilling with gratitude for many things. Each day, I find reason, actually more than one reason, to be happy and thankful. 

My pen scribbled with joy when within the same month, I signed two contracts for a project. Remembering the law of sowing and reaping, I was thrilled when an opportunity was presented to me to donate to a worthy cause. It was just a few hundred pesos which I've been saving for a personal need, but the joy I received in return was priceless. That incident was recorded and kept in the jar. 

But there were also things that I wish didn't happen, still I found reason to be grateful. My son was hospitalized, but we were relieved that he recovered quickly. I had a flu soon after, but I was in bed for just a day. A software I was using was corrupted, but I didn't get cranky this time and stayed calm while downloading a replacement. Cool! 

Because God is in control and He is a reliable help in time of need, I can be thankful in any situation--good or bad, happy or sad. I may be bubbling over with excitement one day, or feeling blah the next time. Yet, when I remember that God loves me dearly and He has a purpose for everything, I train myself to pause, take up the pen, express my thanks, and toss it in my Gratitude Jar. 

At the end of the year, I will unroll each pieces of paper and read them one by one. I will relive God's goodness, thank Him once again, and praise Him for all that He has done. 

"Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus."      
1 Thessalonians 5:18

Here's another story about a Gratitude Jar. 

If you're inspired to make your own Gratitude Jar, share it with us. Let your heart and jar be filled with gratitude to God!

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Wishing for a Golden Wedding Anniversary?

In the beginning of this year, in January, my husband officiated a ceremony for the renewal of vows of a couple celebrating their golden wedding anniversary. After the couple renewed their wedding vows, they danced cheek-to-cheek to the tune of their favorite song “God Knows How Much I Love You” by the Righteous Brothers.

Last June, my parents-in-law celebrated their golden wedding anniversary too. Both of them are already in their 70's and have not been separated from each other. So we celebrated their 50 years of togetherness with a simple lunch with close relatives and friends. We were reminded that married life is not all bliss. It has blisters too, but with Christ in the center of the relationship married couples can stick together and be happy.



Two weeks ago, in this last month of the year, a popular month for weddings, we were invited to another golden anniversary. Teary-eyed the couple renewed their covenant of love to each other. And yes, the elderly husband planted a kiss on the lips of his gray-haired but still beautiful wife. It was a sweet, tender moment and we the audience responded with cheers.


Don’t you wish for a golden wedding anniversary too? I do. In my book How to Keep Your Hubby Happy at Iba Pang Tips para kay Misis I revealed some of the secrets to a long and happy marriage shared by real-life couples who have decided to stay together through thick and thin. Get the scoop from the book available at Omf Literature Book Shops, National Book Store, PCBS, and other book stores.




Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Mamay and Nanay

Mamay* tends a convenience store on the street where we live. I would sometimes go to his store to buy an item which I forgot to pick up from the supermarket, or to quickly replenish my diminishing condiment supply. At 86, Mamay moves slowly now but he could still count and give the correct change. At times when I would pass by, I would see him watching  TV placed in one corner of his store. This morning, I saw him repacking brown sugar in small plastic packets.

I see him in contrast with my aunt whom we call Nanay**. Nanay remains unmarried and now lives with a relative. She's about the same age as my neighbor Mamay. But unlike my enterprising neighbor, I heard Nanay spends more time watching TV alone. In her earlier days, she went out with friends but soon lost touch with them. It's sad that she has become more forgetful lately, not recalling the names of nieces and nephews, not remembering where she placed a personal belonging, or if she has already cashed her retirement check. I plan to visit her again soon. I hope she still recalls my name and that we could laugh together as we remember whatever happy memories we still share.

Nanay (right in printed dress) holding me

Read about enhancing your relationship with your elderly relatives and creating pleasant memories from my book Life in the Middle. Available at PCBS, CSM Book Corner, and some branches of National Book Store. If you want the e-book version, you may get it from Buqo. Want a signed copy delivered at your doorstep? Please email yahmunar@gmail.com for orders.

*Mamay is a Tagalog term used in Batangas for grandfather.
**Nanay is a Tagalog term for mother. Also used to refer to a grandmother.


Thursday, November 27, 2014

Living Significantly

Before each year ends, I return to an annual habit. I look back to the previous months and recall the year’s events and milestones. This year, we grieved as many people close to us passed away.  But this year, we also celebrated the gift of life as babies were born to our family and friends reached their 50th birthday. What an undeniable reminder that life on earth has a beginning, a middle, and an end.

In one of the psalms, David affirmed that God created him and planned the number of days he would live on earth. If the number of our days on earth is limited, how then should we conduct ourselves so as to live significantly?


Live loving.
Jesus Christ summed up the commands of God this way: love God and love others as you love yourself. Is there a conflict here? None, if you keep it that way. Because when you love God first, He will enable you to love others and yourself. But when you love yourself most, you will have a hard time loving God and others.

 Live serving.
Rick Warren said, “There are three things you can do with your life: You can waste it, you can spend it, or you can invest it. The best use of your life is to invest your life in something that will outlast it. The worst thing you can do is to live simply for today and to live for yourself.” God did not put you on earth to live for yourself. Look for an opportunity to serve.

Live laughing.
We take medicine to reduce pain and to prolong life. There’s a saying, laughter is the best medicine. So if you want to live longer, healthier, laugh more often. Laughing boosts immunity and lowers stress hormones. It adds zest to life and improves relationships. And people tend to be more attracted to cheerful individuals. You’d want that, right?

Live wondering.
As we grow older, we lose our sense of wonder. We get busy and give up smelling the flowers. We face troubles and get tired easily. When dreams become unreachable and we fail to reach our goals, we lose our hope. When these happen, it’s time to pause and recharge. Enjoy God’s creation. Discover ways of doing things differently. Do something new. Recover your sense of wonder; God is a wonderful God and He is doing wonderful things in our lives.

Whatever stage of life you are in now, live loving, serving, laughing, and wondering. 

Learn more tips on how to live significantly from my book Life in the Middle. Available at PCBS, CSM Book Corner and other book stores. Or if you want the e-book version, get it from Buqo. If you want a signed copy delivered at your doorstep, please email me at yahmunar@gmail.com.

Monday, March 10, 2014

Our One Week of Manna

It was one of those days when I found myself wishing again for something more. I wanted something more and yes, it was something material. I imagined what I could do if only I have more of what I already have. By coincidence, I heard a preacher on radio say something that snapped me back to my senses. “Don’t take for granted what you have. Don’t get tired of your manna.”

In biblical history, manna is food miraculously supplied to the Israelites in the wilderness for forty years. They were thin flakes that appeared on the desert floor every morning. According to the Exodus account, it was white and tasted like wafers with honey (Exodus 16:31). That’s why it was aptly described as bread from heaven. In spite of the seemingly sweet taste of this miraculous provision, the Israelites lost appetite for it and craved for meat.

The radio broadcast was a heaven-sent message for me. I was reminded to be thankful for the things I already have, no matter how little or few they may be. Six days later, my family and I would experience what I would consider as almost miraculous--we would receive manna for the next six days. 

On Friday, my friend texted me to ask if I was home. Less than an hour later, she was knocking on our door and handing to us a bag full of goods from the wet market: eight fillets of blue marlin, the half of a big squash, about a kilo of ripe mangoes, also a kilo of red tomatoes, three salted eggs, and two pieces of eggplants. We were surprised at the bounty she brought to us. The following day, Saturday, a couple who came from Tagaytay brought us a pasalubong of one big watermelon and two small pineapples. We were so thankful because we love fruits.


We were already pleased and satisfied with our surprise supply of fish, fruits, and vegetables for the past two days, but another feast was yet to come. On Sunday, a couple we know celebrated their wedding anniversary. We didn’t go to their celebration but they sent us a sample of the delicious dishes they served--lumpiang shanghai, pork caldereta, and pansit bihon. I didn’t have to cook lunch and dinner for our family that day!

Monday came, and a colleague came too. She dropped by the house just to sign some papers but she didn’t forget to bring four oranges, one for each of the members of our small family. That’s four days in a row of blessings coming to our abode. Our next-door neighbor felt prompted to share his blessings too for on Tuesday, he gave us five pieces of heart-shaped green Indian mangoes, freshly plucked and coated with shiny resin. No one came on Wednesday and Thursday with a bag of grocery, but on Friday night, my daughter arrived from a cell group meeting with two big maya-maya (red snapper). The mother of one of her cell members gave the fish to our family as a present. Of course, I turned them into our favorite sour stew.



Getting all these free food felt like receiving manna. I said in the beginning that I was wishing for something more, but actually it wasn’t food, it’s something else. But the same principles stood out from our one week of manna experience. First, God knows our needs and even wants, and He can amply supply. But more than satisfying our stomach, God is concerned that our hearts are right. God wants us to have a thankful spirit. 

I also learned not to take for granted what I have. Let’s not forget that aside from material wealth, our family and friends are one of our treasures. They can be used by God as channels of blessings. In return, we can also share with others whatever we have. Don’t underestimate whatever “little” you think you may have. Until you give it away, you’ll never experience the joy of realizing that it’s the miraculous provision someone is waiting for. 

Friday, December 27, 2013

Before the Year is Over (and the New Year Begins)



Five days before the end of 2013, I opened my diary and turned each leaf, scanning the monthly planner for significant events. I was grateful and glad as I noted accomplishments, opportunities and milestones not only for me but also for my family. Two books were published this year. A major translation project was started during the second half of the year.  There were learning opportunities right in the comfort of my home through online courses, as well as through a seminar overseas. Plus treats to a few trips here and abroad. 


Then there’s the usual routine done on specific days or weeks of the month—paying bills, filing reports, making deposits. Even those were noted on my planner. There were also plans and projects that didn’t materialize. Maybe they were not meant to be or maybe they will be fulfilled this coming new year. I’m thankful for whatever good thing God has allowed to happen and for whatever worthy work He has enabled me to do. Though this year brought fears and doubts, lonely moments and discouragements too, God’s grace comforted me. I couldn’t imagine living the 365 days of 2013 without Him.


I already bought a planner for 2014. How about you? Before the new year arrives, you might want to recall also and thank God for the blessings, opportunities, milestones, as well as the lessons learned in 2013. Hopefully, it will give you courage and confidence to face 2014. 

"For I know the plans I have for you," says the LORD. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11